Control is exercising restraint or even the direction over yourself or something. I say “something” because it might be like a car, bicycle or canoe in our case recently. More importantly though, the only thing we can control is ourselves. We can control how and even when we respond to things in our every day life. We can call someone back right away or three days later. We have the freedom to choose yes or no on any topic. All we have to do is commit to a choice and we can take control our lives.
You can start by taking control of your direction. I remember in the beginning we would be in our canoe and hit some fast water. All of the sudden we would come to a turn and if we didn’t switch at the right time with the right force…. well we would lose control. So controlling your direction isn’t always easy. Picture this like your goals. You can’t achieve them if you don’t pick them. Just picking out what you want to do next is a big part of you controlling your direction. After you pick your goals you just have to plan how you will get there. Once you know that, then you can begin to drive yourself in the direction towards what you want. Just remember like the river and the turns… you have to experience them to know the perfect moment to adjust. Sometimes life will throw you a curve ball and you have to adapt. It might not work out perfect the first few times and this will most likely make you upset. When this happens all you have to do is control your emotions!
If you look at the circle of people in your life you can probably see all sorts of emotions. You will probably notice some are in more control of their emotions then others. Understand, you can control all of your emotions. You have to choose to “BE” and “FEEL” the way you want to. If you want to be happy, you have to choose to be happy. Secondly, you must take the roller coaster of human emotions that come with life experiences and control them too. Use things like fear and anxiety as fuel towards your goals. Become completely fascinated with your frustration as Tony Robbins once said. Try something new and mess up. It is completely ok. The phrase from a seminar I went to that comes to mind is, “You have my permission to not be perfect.” Allow yourself to feel and be in touch with our emotions. They are your key to growing and becoming a much stronger you.
As you do all of this you will probably find a new found freedom. You will find that your mind will most likely become free of the daily and worldly junk that everyone else thinks is important. You will find yourself in control of your mindset. When you do, you will start to change the way you think. You will no longer look at everyone with a “what have you done for me lately” attitude. You will start to think clear and realize what you need to do. You will ask the question over and over again, “how can or what can I do to help?”. When someone you know gets upset and explodes in your face about something… you will ask them what you can do to help. When someone starts accusing you or blaming you of something… you will ask, “what can I do to help”. You will begin to help others in a whole new light. This will take you far because you will no longer think about the things that people don’t do for you. You will now start to think about ways to make those things happen again. You will be in control of your direction, emotions and mindset. You will be in control of your life and your world. You will have a life of purpose and best of all, you will feel amazing!