The Hard Answers

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There are many different types of questions.  Some are simply a matter of opinion and others are more about the way things work or operate.  When it comes to how things work like a motor in a car, you can easily “web search” the question and get a ton of answers.

So lets focus on the questions that deal more with opinion.  These are typically the questions that people will answer in the most “PC” way they can.  They may even sugar coat the answer because they don’t want to hurt your feelings.

This is similar to when you try to answer questions for the sake of answering them.  Both of these situations don’t build your friendship or relationship any better with that person.  It brings in a false sense of hope and even a lack of trust.

It reminds me of years ago when I was first learning leg locks.  I would tap many of my students and training partners pretty quickly with the leg locks.  They would tap early due to the pain and they would tap early to stay safe from the joint manipulation.

This built my confidence; but did not build my skill.  The test to this was the day I started wrestling a person I had never trained with before.  I saw the opening and went for my now “signature” ankle locks.  I got in the position and cranked…. and cranked…. and cranked his leg until I was blue in the face.  I remember it tired me out considerably.  We wrestled for a while longer and then eventually I was on top in his guard.  He applied an arm bar and I proceeded to “stack” him.  As I tried to turn out of it I got rolled into a prone or face down arm bar.  I was so tired I couldn’t respond quick enough nor tap at the angle.  That of course left us stopping when we both heard the “POP!!!”.  In combination with this and the fatigue of trying to muscle a submission, I literally had to pull over and puke on the way home.

I share this with you because when I was training I didn’t get what I call the “Hard Answer”.

The “Hard Answer” is the type of answer that maybe you don’t really want to hear.  It is the answer to your question that helps you realize what you really need to do.  It is the answer that only your true friends and family typically would give you.  It is the answer to both the type of questions that you might vocalized as well as those questions never even spoken.

What I mean by this is that people often just need help.  They are either afraid to ask the question or they don’t even know what the question is.  So, you see your friend really just going the wrong direction while driving.  Do you speak up?  Of course you do.  The same should happen in every day life.

Now don’t get me wrong, you can give the “Hard Answer” in a way that is functional and doesn’t destroy someone.  Make it positive, but real.  Not bitter and not sweet.

Help your friends and family out with the “Hard Answers” and become either the most opinionated person they know or the Rock in their life.  I believe this will give them a sense of stability between you and they will always trust you and look to you for guidance.

Guro Larry, Sonja, Lauren & Tori St. Clair

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Make The Time

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Probably one of the things I hear the most about life is people just don’t have the time.  They don’t have the time to cook, exercise, etc., etc.  Lets face it, everyone is busy… or so they say.

When I hear the word “busy”, it reminds me of an old colleague of mine.  I would walk into his office and he would have three appointments for the day and be freaking out.  “Man I am soooooo busy!!!” he would tell me.  I used to laugh to myself on the inside and think… “Geez, I would love that schedule.”  On the same day I would be struggling to get client approvals for advertisements.  I would literally be pushing out 6-10 advertisements for the local papers.  All while also having clients yelling for changes on their websites.  Ah the good old days!

The funny thing is though, I never once said… “I don’t have the time” or “I am just too busy.”  I just continued to put my nose to the grind stone and progress forward to the finish line.

Now on the flip side, I do get a lot of people that tell me, “Man you are always busy!”.  Personally, that is my favorite thing to hear.  It is something I take pride in.  I enjoying doing the unthinkable.  I like living in a way that sets an example.  I love when people ask me, how do you find the time to do all the things you do.  When they do my response is always the same.  “I Make The Time.”

Lets face it, we all have the same amount of time.  We all have the same hours in a day.  The true movers and shakers in the world use that time very wisely.  They pick and choose what to spend their time on.  They put their time into the things they know will bring them the most benefit.  I hardly think these people are consistently surfing on YouTube or Facebook every free second.  They are treating their time like money and saving every second for the things that matter the most to them.

So pick what matters the most to you and your goals.  Every decision that has to do with your time has to be made with this in mind.

Most importantly, take the mindset from one of my friends.  He used to always say, “Excuses don’t excuse… they explain.”  We don’t get to check out or step away from what we need to do.  Let me put it to you this way.  “Most” people pay their bills.  It is something that we “must” do.  So lets start taking living healthier as a “MUST”.  Lets start prioritizing the things that make a difference in our future.  Lets Make the Time!!!

Guro Larry St. Clair
The Always Improving Martial Way Academy
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CHARGE!!!

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To Charge is to attack by rushing!!!  Literally you put everything you have into whatever it is and CHARGE towards the finish line.  This reminds me of “The Bay” in the Safari.  Depending on conditions, it can take you forever to cross.  It felt like an eternity and the only way I could help myself get through it was to literally stab the water.  I thought about one thing and that was stab and pull, stab and pull.  I use this as an example because you need 100% of your focus and energy towards your goals.  Sometimes all it takes is a single thought repeated over and over again to win.  If you get distracted or put anything less than 100% your results will be very different.  This is the same in life.  Remember you will get everything you want if you just charge it down like a Rhino!!!

During your goal setting, planning and pursuit there are definitely different types of “Charge” needed.  The first type is immediately from the beginning.  At the start of the race you need to TURBO Charge whatever you are doing.  The leadership of your team and the pace they set will be determined by your speed.  So at the sound of the whistle, put the peddle to the metal.  Pick your direction, rev your plan and go for it!

Now once you get up and get going towards your goals you might feel yourself getting tired.  You will feel yourself swaying a little and having a harder time pushing for the finish.  This is that moment when you need a SUPER Charge.  This kind of a Charge is great for helping you get a little more wind in your sails.  It is that last moment where you are exhausted and you remember something.  You remember what you set out to do and you push a little more.  You take that goal and use it as a spark to push a little harder.  This is how your move beyond your competition and the things that hold you back.

Most importantly after all of this is to Re-Charge.  After you have achieved your goal you need to unplug and cruise a little.  You need a set amount of time to cool off your motor.  This is a great time to evaluate your progress and restructure your process.  After the Safari, we took about two weeks to mend most of our aches and pains.  During that time we began structuring a plan towards our next goal.  So keep in mind that Re-Charge is definitely still a Charge.  The steps here are just as important to moving towards your goal.  No matter the speed you keep pressing forward and CHARGE!!!

Guro Larry St. Clair

The Always Improving Martial Way Academy
Martial Arts Training and Fitness Education at its Best
http://www.martialway.net
512-821-3637
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