We all know about habits. Think back to when you were a kid and you had that one thing your parents tried to get you to do. It was probably bathing or brushing your teeth. Maybe it was cleaning your room or even eating your vegetables. Most likely the habits they were trying to help us gain were things that would be good for us in the long run. They were habits to help us grow up and be healthy. Some of them were there to help us even stay safe like looking both ways before we cross the street.
Now that we are “all grown up”, we might have children of our own and the roles are reversed. The fun truly begins. But even if you don’t have children, habits still play a big part of our lives.
A habit is by definition an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary. You do something enough times you will start to do it without even thinking about it. Most of us have a pattern of habits we do every day. Think about your morning. You get up and you probably do the exact same thing every single morning. It is your piece of mind.
Now that we are older we have to be honest with about some of the things we do. There are of course good habits and bad habits. There are habits that will help us maintain our course or direction just as much as there are habits that will help us achieve our goals faster. There are even habits that will slow down or even destroy everything we are trying to accomplish. Our parents are not here to tell us what to do anymore. So it is up to us to find out these habits and control them so that we can grow to achieve our biggest dreams and goals!
One of the most powerful things you can do is evaluate your current situation. Make a list of the three things that you enjoy and you think makes a difference in you reaching your goals. Then make a list of the three things that hold you back from reaching your goals. Picture that you could only have six positive habits. So what would it take to improve?
The answer is pretty simple. You want to figure out how you can eliminate the bad habits. Find a way to break the bad habits before they become you. This could be as simple as doing the opposite of the bad habit. If you are inactive or not getting enough sleep make a change. Become more active through your week and set yourself a bed time to get more rest. As you do this you will begin a new evolution. You will be making a turn and growing from three to four great habits! Once you have made this change then work on gaining a fifth and sixth. When you reach all six you will notice your speed and strength towards your goals improving. During this process you must remember one important word… patience. Be patient and stay strong. If you do something often enough it will be yours. Studies show that it takes at least 21 days to create a habit. So stay on course and remember one of my favorite sayings… “Habits we train are habits we gain.”
So what guarantees your success during this process? Keeping a habit… habit. The true challenge isn’t in adopting a new habit. The real challenge is keeping the good habits that you adopt. It is continuing day after day to hit the nail on the head perfectly! It will take 21 days or more to build or change your habits… and only Three Days to ruin all your hard work!! I recommend you journal and write out the steps you are taking. This way if you begin to slip you can review and catch yourself before you fall. Most importantly… if you fall… fall forward. Falling is just a stumble and failing is only failing if you give up. As the old Japanese Maxim says… “fall down seven, get up eight.”
Changing the world starts with you being able to change yourself.
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Guro Larry, Sonja, Lauren & Tori St. Clair
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